Lonelygirl15

See, the problem is that I really am trapped. We live together (for over 4 years) and we have a daughter together. I don't make enough money from my business to support myself and my 2 kids. It totally sucks. He's started drinking really heavily again lately and could have burned the house down last week. My life sucks....

I know how it feels to be trapped. I mean..NO...happily married..

We used to be happy...really we did. He's my best friend and I don't want to think of my life without him. But things are just not right and haven't been for more then 6 months. I come home from work and he's passed out drunk at least 4 out of 5 nights that I work. Many times, he's been passed out drunk and the kids are still wide awake at 10 or 11 at night.

And if he's not passed out drunk (which is preferable) he's wide awake and mean. He makes nasty comments and says some really horrible things about me and the kids. I worry about what he's said to them, all drunk, when I'm at work.

Hmmm...sounds like he needs a bit of tough love for a wake up call, ziola.

I've given him the ultimatum...cut back on the drinking or the kids and I are leaving. My problem is, I have nowhere to go.

Ziola wrote:I've given him the ultimatum...cut back on the drinking or the kids and I are leaving. My problem is, I have nowhere to go.

come to Texas, i have an extra bedroom.

Very sweet of you...and someday I might take you up on it.

But I have a business to run...and 70 kids that depend on me.

I need to win the lottery.

My sister in law is in a similar situation...she was stuck for years. She just kicked him out and is filing for divorce, now. I don't know how she makes it...I wish we could help you.

Just letting me vent is great...I don't want to depress people or have anyone feel bad for me. I just have to get things off my chest and I don't want to take my irritation out on my kids.

thanks guys!

Hey, I've been doing that all week!

ziola, i am so sorry to hear things are so bad right now ~ you know from past experiences...it does do good to just vent sometimes....just to get things out of your head.

I can't wait until April. I'm taking a trip to NYC by myself to take some dance classes, so I'll really be able to just think things over with no distractions. It will be nice...no bf, no kids, just me

That's partly why I don't mind that the hubster works nights. I get the evenings all to myself.

yeah, we work opposite schedules too. I'm home during the day and work nights.

Ziola wrote:So, I don't hate the entire human race, just some of it. More specifically my bf. Long story short, we've been having problems for a while now. And while I love him, I almost feel trapped. And he just keeps getting more and more clingy. Now, he's taken to accusing me of having numerous affairs with all the guys here. Stupid jackass...

Heh. He suspects the guys. I take it you haven't told him about . . . us?

Edited to add: Oh, shit, Zi, I posted that before I read the rest of your posts. I'm so sorry about your situation. If there's any way I/we can help, just say the word -- I have a guest room, and I love kids. In the meantime, though, I'll just send you loads of sympathetic hugs.