last nights horrible horrible reality strike

Cuddlebunni · Post by **Cuddlebunni** » Fri Jan 05, 2007 7:28 pm

Much love to Mute, Lester, and Ladybug

Danielle · Post by **Danielle** » Fri Jan 05, 2007 7:30 pm

Cuddlebunni wrote: wow i leave for a bit and come back to a bunch hostility. One big fat reason why i dont frequent the irc. Nothing but rude meanies in there. The IRC sucks donkey testicles.

My favourite part was the generalization and sterotyping of 30+ people.

I personally have never had my mouth anywhere near a set of donkey testicles, and as far as I know beastiality isn't something that the majority of the IRC partakes in... ChanServ aside.

The 'rude meanies' of the IRC are my favourite part of this whole experience... dark, cynical and sarcastic is how i like 'em. Overly sensitive and cuddley? Not so much.

Cuddlebunni · Post by **Cuddlebunni** » Fri Jan 05, 2007 7:34 pm

Oversensitive? Not not so much. I can hold my own just fine darling. I was actually defending Kelly.

You just proved my statement a bit more though.. so thanks.

LesterG · Post by **LesterG** » Fri Jan 05, 2007 7:34 pm

Nothing about us being "carebears" or other crap, it's just called human decency...

you'ld think some women would understand women problems.. it's much deeper then just "oh I have an eating disorder, call jerry." kuh whatever...

kelly you know who supports you and who is just speaking alot of bullocks... much love to you

horcruxes · Post by **horcruxes** » Fri Jan 05, 2007 7:38 pm

Cuddlebunni wrote:One big fat reason why i dont frequent the irc. Nothing but rude meanies in there. The IRC sucks donkey testicles.

i personally prefer human testicles, but to each his own.
the irc isn't rude or mean. we're hilarious and fun. i know that with my own personal problem the people in the irc cared a lot more than some of my real life friends. don't be so quick to judge.

i love the IRC. and if we suck big donkey testicles. THEN SO BE IT! ORGY TIME BABY!

spaciegirlreturn · Post by **spaciegirlreturn** » Fri Jan 05, 2007 7:40 pm

Damn!! People are di*ks.

LesterG · Post by **LesterG** » Fri Jan 05, 2007 7:41 pm

spaciegirlreturn wrote:Damn!! People are di*ks.

Cuddlebunni · Post by **Cuddlebunni** » Fri Jan 05, 2007 7:42 pm

horcruxes wrote:
Cuddlebunni wrote:One big fat reason why i dont frequent the irc. Nothing but rude meanies in there. The IRC sucks donkey testicles.
i personally prefer human testicles, but to each his own.
the irc isn't rude or mean. we're hilarious and fun. i know that with my own personal problem the people in the irc cared a lot more than some of my real life friends. don't be so quick to judge.

i love the IRC. and if we suck big donkey testicles. THEN SO BE IT! ORGY TIME BABY!

lol. okay so maybe I shouldnt have used that exact wording. I wasnt saying the people in the IRC suck donkey testicles... just that the chat itself sucked cuz I had bad experiences....

anyways, I cant speak for EVERY single person in the chat, Im sure a few of you are cool.. but the few that posted here to kelly were a bit mean and said some unnessary things. That is all.

LadyBugGirl · Post by **LadyBugGirl** » Fri Jan 05, 2007 7:42 pm

LesterG wrote:lots of flaming happened in a thread asking for help..... not as many open-minded people as I thought there was... anyway kelly, I still think you are a beautiful woman and your comfortable about your sexuality...

there was nothing inapropriate about what kelly testified... all she said was stripping pole... it's not like she said that she was humping the pole or anything =/ whatever...

if you've got nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all...

Exactly. If you don't like what she has to say then you don't have to read it.

I feel bad for killthesmiley...seriously I do. All this was uncalled for!

Edit to add

Cuddlebunni wrote:Much love to Mute, Lester, and Ladybug

Back 'attcha!

Danielle · Post by **Danielle** » Fri Jan 05, 2007 7:48 pm

In the IRC chat situation I can honestly say I've only been mean to one person.

And its none of you here. It was some silly girl that wouldn't stop harrassing me with her big idea to make a drop for the PM of OpAphid etc..

And it wasn't even that bitchy of a response. I just linked her to an ARG website and told her not to bother me with the idea again.

Half of the bad experiences I've heard about all start off with good intentions and bad interpretations.

Flautapantera · Post by **Flautapantera** » Fri Jan 05, 2007 7:59 pm

I don't want to take sides or incite more conflict, but I think this whole mess could have been prevented had horcruxes (whom I personally have enjoyed since she first arrived at the forum) not voiced her opinion:

horcruxes wrote: TMI IMHO

you could've left out the stripper pole at least.

The thing is, everyone is entitled to their own opinion (which I am doing at this very moment). It just seems to me that if you come across a thread and don't agree with the message, use common sense and don't post. If you know that what you say is going to insult someone else, try to restrain yourself. I don't know, perhaps KTS shouldn't have started this thread in the first place if she didn't want responses. I'm not trying to argue either way, really I'm not. In my loopy world everyone would get along and we'd hug. But I can't be that naive and ignorant so I'm trying to dispel the hate and anger in this thread.

Is there any way this can be solved via PM sans the name-calling juvenile smack talk witnessed here?

tannhaus · Post by **tannhaus** » Fri Jan 05, 2007 8:11 pm

Hey, I know how you feel. For a couple of years, I weighed 210-215. Most of the time I stayed right at 212. I felt good and I thought I looked decent. I'm a 6 feet tall male with wide shoulders. People didn't call me fat. More often, they asked if I played football (I hate sports except for women's sports that include skimpy outfits).

Then, I had a series of wrecks while driving the cab...five in 2 1/2 years to be exact. Each wreck messed up my back and stuck me in a chiropractor's care for 6 months at a time. The last two were the worst though. The first of the two gave me a herniated disc I was hit so hard. The second one aggravated the injury and whipped my spine around. I spent 1 YEAR in a chiropractor's care on the last one.

What is the result of this? I couldn't move around a lot. There were MONTHS when walking through the grocery store to buy groceries made me hurt. I had to give up any sense of an active livestyle at all and basically sit around a lot....for about 3 years. In short, I've gained probably over 50 lbs. I'm out of the chiropractor's care now and they've done all they can for me. The pain I have now...I'll have for the rest of my life.

So, I can become active again to some extent. But, I've spent 3 years NOT being active at all. When my girlfriend came here, I was ashamed. I still catch myself thinking sometimes when we're out "People are looking at me and then looking at her and thinking 'Why is SHE scraping the bottom of the barrel?' " I feel horrible about myself now.

Yes, I'm going to lose weight...but it takes time. It makes you feel like less of a person to weigh so much. You're not just ashamed to be seen in shorts or something like that, you're ashamed to be seen at all. You just wish you could hide and not be noticed by anyone.

People who have never been overweight don't understand the tremendous amount of shame it causes. I'm lucky because I have a wonderful girlfriend who reassures me that I'm cute. But, I feel for anyone with body issues. It's a terrible thing to go through.

Post by **wintermute** » Fri Jan 05, 2007 8:30 pm

tannhaus wrote:People who have never been overweight don't understand the tremendous amount of shame it causes. I'm lucky because I have a wonderful girlfriend who reassures me that I'm cute. But, I feel for anyone with body issues. It's a terrible thing to go through.

For most of my life, I had the opposite problem. I am a 5'6" male, who weighed 115 upon graduating high school. I was too skinny for a guy that height (138 is ideal) and could do nothing about it. I quit smoking with no weight gain at all. I worked out. I had a horrid diet that should have put much weight on me. Nothing worked. I weighed maybe 125, tops, when I got married. For some reason, a happy marriage can do something to you, because, 8 years later, I'm still 5'6", but am pushing 190. Just over 50 pounds overweight. I've done nothing different, but... :shrugs:

At any rate, I've seen both sides of the coin... Again, for a guy, it's different. But people can be hurtful to you regardless, so it's all about the support. I feel honored that Kelly feels that she can get some of the support she needs from us

'mute

Luv2Skydive · Post by **Luv2Skydive** » Fri Jan 05, 2007 8:47 pm

horcruxes wrote:
Killthesmiley wrote:lvoe everyone who have been supportive of this thread and my depressing depressing realization last night.
it was hard for me to get dressed this morning. i looked at all my clothes and thought...."will anything actually fit me." it hurts a lot, like to be a point of ridicule to people and to be a person to harrass. it hurts a lot. so when situations arise (such as the above one with hor) it do jump the gun, get heated and take a lot of things personally, even though i probably should have laughed them off.
you know ... comments like "how the hell can you eat 8 hamburgers? I can't even eat that in a month" to me, in this state of mind, and to anyone in this state of mind is rude and uncalled for.
its unfair how people don't understand its like walking on eggshells and trying to no break them. It hurts. mentally and physically for me. Someone makes a comment like that, and i get physically sick.
yea i might be sensative, but thats because right now, i'm in a touchy situation mentally. and you would figure people would realize seeing i posted about how much i cried and how depressing this was to me, that people would be sensative to that fact.
I appreciate everyone what have been suportive. It helps. it really does. it's encouraging. I'm going to get ahold of this. It's hard to break from pregnancy eating habits. But i'm going to do it.
wow, let me applaud you for adding "hell" in my comment. it helps make it seem a bitch harsher than it originally was. i should've added hell when i first typed it. darn, missed opportunities.

kill, i'm not trying to say that your feelings mean less than anyone elses. that i've never felt that way before. because i've been where you're at, minus the stripper pole. but i didn't put it on a public forum for the world to see. you think you're the only one going through a hard time right now? guess again. maybe if you knew me, you'd realize that my problem right now has nothing to do with me not being able to fit into lingerie and swing around on a stripper pole. its a whole lot more.

i wouldn't and don't expect anyone to treat me any differently than before. its not my right to ask people to change themselves so that it better suits me and my mental state. and i don't think you should either.

you can't blame me for how you feel about yourself. the only person you can hold accountable is you. if you don't love yourself, don't try and place the blame on something else. live it. own it. realize it. change it.

well, those are my 2 cents.

*goes back to the IRC*

1. She started this thread about a problem she's was dealing with. Go start your own thread.
2. I want a stripper pole, that's fricking awesome. If that, of all things,' offends you, why are you here, why don't you whine to a mod, or get off the net altogether.
3. *STAY THERE*

Luv2Skydive · Post by **Luv2Skydive** » Fri Jan 05, 2007 8:48 pm

horcruxes wrote:
kristenjane wrote:you obviously arent good at "just kidding" if you were.

Also.. a joke is when the other person is laughing too. that was just mean
other people are laughing. they're just not posting.
they want me to take the heat for it.

I thought you were leaving.....I thought that was the point of these: **